The funky divas of En Vogue instructed me to, "Free [my] mind," promising that, "the rest will follow." I'm not sure if they were talking about my dating life, but they couldn't be further off the mark. I've accepted dozens of dates with the most outlandish suitors in a vain effort to keep an open mind and now I can freely admit that I am terrible at it.Believe me, I've tried. I've given guys from all walks of life a chance to win my heart. I've tried to look past his long hair, his towering height, and his terrible style. I've looked past obvious red flags and incompatibilities for so long, well, I'm throwing in the open mind towel. Sorry, En Vogue. When it comes to fellas, I pretty much know what I like at this point. This pie is baked.
5 comments:
i have tried the same thing, to no avail. you can only venture out into the great unknown so many times before you realize that it isn't the unknown at all. you know all about it and it sucks.
Shannon, EXACTLY!!
I think it's more about figuring out what qualities match your personality rather than learning to look past things. I never went on dates... Instead I hung out with crushes among groups of friends. You gain a much clearer and faster picture of the person he "really" is.
When I lived in NYC, I was a power dater. I used to go on dates about two or three times a week. I said yes to anyone who asked me out, all in the name of keeping an open mind.
Now, I know what I want and only try to say yes to boys that I'm attracted to. It sounds stupid, but it took me a few years to figure that out. Shrug.
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